Okay, I know it is the finely tuned excuse for many a young man or woman to conclude as they reach a "maturity" to blame the world for its inconsistency but, it's true! You are right. Its not fair and yes, many are lying to you. But not perhaps in the way you think.
The world is horribly unfair and I remember when I first stepped out of the black and whites of life of clear and "childlike" rights and wrongs to discover, that despite the obvious presence of simple rights and wrongs, "adults" wanted me to believe in grays. Lots and lots of grays. Many shades of "truth." (For the quick--you may have just noticed in a world of grays, shades of truth
must mean they are all lies and many liars for shades of truth must also mean shades of lies. And there is not such thing as
part truth without it being all lie.) What is perhaps the most difficult and yet inviting of all lies for many young people today? It is the one they, that you have been told, not the one they make up...unless they, you chose to buy into its "gray." It is that you "have" to be adults but not more than children. That you are to be
only adolescents. You can be adult in expectations but not in abilities.
If someone wanted to do a fruitful study on the idea of adolescence they would probably find that it is a fairly new idea made up in the Twentieth Century to explain away the bad behavior of young men and women who, prior to the industrial revolution, would have been busy learning the responsibilities of manhood and womanhood as a matter of necessity not nicety (agricultural life does tend to make one a little different than the Nintendo does.) Parents were upset with why their children were coming out "so bad." I mean, these young people were being given all the fruits of the "new modern age." They had everything they could have wanted.... In fact, many young people had the skills their parents didn't and the new economy wanted. They were making their own expendable incomes for which they were responsible to no one but themselves--or where they?
This little traipse down the history lane does matter,
if you don't like to be lied to. Bear with me, its worth it: What is perhaps just as interesting is how many parents (and larger society as a whole) slowly began to deal with this problem in a different way-- rather than asserting that they had once "been there" and "new what it was like" and knew that their young children were searching for truths and meanings beyond the fruits of money, parents instead, agreed with their young'ins. They (sociologists and psychologist, rather new fields both) decided to pin the problem on society as a whole that was expecting
something of these youngsters who, filled with the angst of the new industrial society, couldn't handle:
Maturity. Of course, society had already begun to dabble seriously with denying that man was responsible to God and that the problems that were manifesting themselves in youth may be a result of a sin nature, theirs and their parents. That was already on the way out--the "educated" knew so much better. They new that the real reason was the nurturing that society had developed around the young and impressionable was insufficient, too overbearing and other sorts of things. Yup, the smart egg-heads invented something
new called: "Excuses." No one had
ever heard of these before! They
must be true and best of all, it didn't require the parents to be responsible either! This was a must. So, parents, collaborated with the new wise men and they invented a
really "big one" that has been thrown into the crib of many a growing young man and woman ever since. They literally created a new type of person: the Adollllllllllessssssscent. Whoaaaaaaooooo..... It even sounds smart. The word has
more than three (3) syllables. I am
not making this up! Adolescents DID NOT exist before. But it caught on. And that's how we got to where we are today!
The term "adolescent" has become synonymous with teenager and it really means exactly what it is still used for: The excuse that "there is no right or wrong behavior for someone
your age, you aren't an adult
yet, you are still a child-ish and its okay! We don't expect more from you and, frankly, neither should
you." Is that what you like? Does that sound right to any one? In fact, what does the truth say standing against such
wisdom? Does the Bible have any place for such distinction? Should Christians? Should you?
In a distinctly interesting development, some "teens" themselves are getting fed up with the lie and actually fighting off the low expectations of adolescence. Perhaps we should step out and identify these intrepid rebels as "Young Adults" or, maybe, just adults. ...If only we had a standard by which to judge
if they were adults! I mean, is adulthood judged by age? 18? 21? 45? Watching some television shows I would be tempted to throw in 65, but that is getting silly--No, any young child grows up expecting adults to
be adults. And when they aren't they are just silly. And maybe sad. We know adulthood is not measured by age, a drivers license or even a degree. What makes a child feel angry and
really lied to is when adults
aren't. (Tons of teens consistently answer surveys wishing their parents did more to stop them in their, well, adolescence.) Warning! Parents are adults to be sure,
but you are supposed to be too. That's the truth, not the lie!
This is what we are called to not only by nature--God made us to be adults after childhood, not something perpetually in between-- you are called to something more. And, good news, the great difficulty of that passage between is supposed to happen with the help of "adults" who have gone before you! That's why they deserve honor! And if you obey, "it will go well with you!" They are supposed to help, and can, but they are supposed to call you to something more: Maturity. This is a reoccurring theme in our Christian lives too! Stop acting as if there is some "other station" in life between childhood and adulthood and you may be struck by the sense it makes...almost like it was
designed that way. Scripture consistently knocks down the idea of adolescence both Spiritually and Physically. Don't believe me, try to name
one good spiritual adolescent. Okay, now, ask yourself, what makes them mature...perhaps even in comparison to those older than them. WARNING: Only start that kind of Biblical study if you are willing to find out the truth. Think I am alone in this call? Here's an interesting pair that want you to start thinking the same way... and they aren't as old as I am:
Oh, yeah, and they are coming to Birmingham, AL in August. I guess I am going to encourage you to rebel! And don't be lied to anymore.
